Gerald Lee Jordan MBA, MEd, MCouns

Labelling As Power


When another labels you, be it a therapist or someone else, this attempt to label is a function of power, a form of control.

Control of Therapist

We may understand this statement within - say - a racist context. The person labelling you is trying to humiliate or otherwise control you, but what about within therapy? Traditional therapeutic paradigms attempt to "understand" by fitting the client into current models - social and therapeutic. These labels confine the client within "norms", emphasising the aspects of self which fit into the norms and minimising or ignoring those aspects of self which do not fit into the label.

These labels allow the therapist to treat the client as a symptom, a condition or something else that can be "easily" understood, controlled or manipulated. These labels minimise the experiences and individuality of the person seeking help.

Loss of Personal Control

When the person defers to the labels of another, she or he gives up power - power to define self and power to create self. While these labels can provide temporary relief from individual responsibility and choice - in effect deferring an existential crisis - they limit the options of the person seeking to overcome problems and evolve.

Keeping Power With The Client

How can this power be minimised within the therapeutic relationship? Attempt to understand the experience of the client, rather than trying to fit it into a predetermined paradigm. Realise that the client is the expert in his or her own life (a central tenet of Narrative Therapy). Learn to sit with the ambiguity of the lives of others, without forcing experience into narrow preconceptions.

For many, this loss of control is unsettling and means recreating their relationships with others. The benefits - both within the therapeutic relationship and within wider social interactions - are well worth the initial discomfort.

Our Narratives

Therapy Podcast

I enjoy podcasts and started thinking of creating a therapy podcast back in 2013. I was working full-time, a full-time daddy (my favourite and most important role) and spreading myself across a number of other things. I then became single in 2014 and had other things upon which to focus. Creating a podcast became a lesser priority.

Counselling and Therapeutic Modalities

Since I became a counsellor back in 2009, I have bounced a bit between modalities. As a student, the emphasis was upon Carl Rogers' Person Centered Therapy. This is a good starting point, but just that - a place to start. I then became interested in the various iterations of Cognitive Therapy (Cognitive Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Rational-Emotive Behavioural Therapy), but they didn't seem enough. I then chanced upon Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy and felt this covered a few more bases in the approach I wanted to use. I realised that it was important for me to include mindfulness in some form in my therapeutic practice. Then there was Narrative Therapy and Compassion-Focused Therapy (among many others). All of these things began to come together to strengthen my practice. I have also been exploring Positive Psychology in the last few years.

Narrative Therapy

I began to consider that Narrative Therapy could be a framework from which I would work, supplemented by other modalities and tools - meditation, compassion meditation, cognitive therapeutic work, etc. I took a course last year in Adelaide, Australia, at the Centre where Narrative Therapy began. I continued to consider the possibilities after this course.

Our Narratives

The lock-down of COVID-19 has given me time to further explore possibilities. I have been working on audio resources for meditation and other things that might help others during self-isolation. Yesterday, I created a podcast and will be migrating some of these resources to that podcast.

The podcast is available at:

Content will be added over the following weeks, but I anticipate Narrative Therapy theory and sessions, guided meditation (mindfulness, compassion and chanting) and poetry that I might want to read.

Art From My Son For My 53rd Birthday

Gifts From My Son

My son was awake until almost 3am this morning, making my birthday presents. Whenever he asks what I want, it is always something made by him. These were my presents today, my 53rd birthday!

New Zealand Pōhutukawa

This is of one of our most iconic trees, the pōhutukawa.

Jack Jordan New Zealand Pōhutukawa

Brandenburger Tor (Brandenburg Gate)

My son knows this has significance for me, both as a student in 1989 West Berlin and also for the trip he and I took to Europe in 2018.

Jack Jordan Brandenburger Tor (Brandenburg Gate)

Happy birthday to me!

Afternoon Walk

Discovering A New Path

We are trying to get out and walk every few days and yesterday Jack and I explored a new path. We had seen it from the road and Jack has often wondered what was in that direction, so we turned off and explored. Wonderful time together!

Jack and Dad's Afternoon Walk

Seven Days of Meditation - Day Two Try It

Seven Days of Meditation

I have been working on an app for those in lock-down - an app that takes those new to meditation through seven days of meditation practice. I realised that there is no reason not to go ahead and upload the audio files, so here is the second day try it exercise.

This second day emphasises Compassion Meditation.

Day Two Try It on Twitter

Seven Days of Meditation Podcast